Feel Better About Yourself

Start the new year by taking steps towards feeling better about yourself. Don't let the stress of everyday challenges get you down and prevent you from living to your fullest potential. Healthy self-esteem is cultivated on the inside. Everyone deserves to feel good about themselves. Begin now...

A negative self-image is a major happiness hurdle.

It is almost impossible to lose yourself in the throes of joy when your inner critic serves as a steady reminder of how you aren’t enough and don’t deserve the life you crave.

A damaging flood of continuous thought can overwhelm you and convince you that your mind speaks only the truth. 

Just because you think it, doesn’t make it true.

Even folks with healthy levels of self-esteem and self-worth struggle with navigating through the difficult days.

It is hard out there and you are regularly bombarded with real-life examples that force you to question yourself:

You produced a less than stellar performance at work.

You did something to someone that you are not proud of and you are pretty certain that if your mother found out, she would be disappointed.

You took 20 huge steps towards becoming slow to anger, annoy, and irritate then it takes less than five seconds for the cashier at Target to tick you off.

In an instant, you seemed to have forgotten the lessons revealed during the meditation practice, the podcast, the book, or the therapy session you had earlier that day.

As long as you live, things will happen and you will be tested (it kinda keeps things interesting).

However, there are things that we can do to reduce the negative feelings associated with our unfavorable actions as well as minimize the recovery time between incidents.

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Ignite Joy Through Creativity

Exploring your creativity can help begin the journey toward finding your passion and purpose. Learn how to conquer your fears, take more risks, and commit to discovering the things that will bring more joy to your life.

“I am not creative.”

Generally speaking, most of us equate creativity with the ability to do something at an exemplary level.  We believe that creative people are just the folks that move or inspire us with art, music, or theatrical performances.  We think of them as being at the top of their field, or having the potential to be if only they were discovered.  

The notion that being creative requires you to have a certain level of talent or a particular skillset, stifles expression before it even has the opportunity to emerge. This type of mindset causes a variety of roadblocks and an aversion to taking risks.  

There may be a thing or two out there that sparks your interest, but you are reluctant to try it because you think “You aren’t good enough.”

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Get More Out of Your Personal Relationships

Do you want to know how to get more out of your relationships? The quality of our relationships has a huge impact on our level of happiness. Learn how to build strong relationships that endure life's challenges and the test of time.

Quality relationships have a huge impact on our degree of happiness. Much of the joy we experience comes from the familiar and the unexpected encounters that we share with others. Unfortunately, some of us are a hot mess when it comes to love and relationships, both romantic and platonic.

Nurturing a healthy relationship requires a level of awareness and vulnerability that too many of us resist.  We also have a tendency to hold others to absurd and unrealistic expectations.  When in fact, we are all flawed human beings just trying to figure this thing out.  We struggle with saying the simple things, like “I love you” and “I am sorry” and are quick to deny when we fall short.

Relationships force us to see ourselves through the lens of another.   We get a front row seat to how our behavior is impacting someone and the quality of their lives. 

Now, this is a two-way street, but you can only control and modify your behavior, then decide what you will accept from others.

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Figure Out What You Want And Get It

Figure out how to build the life you actually want. Too often we are living lives created for us, but not by us. Learn how to begin the steps to designing a life you are excited to live.

Believe it or not YOU can have a life that is meaningful, fulfilling, and joyous.

Let’s be honest here, too many of us are spending time looking longingly through a window into someone else’s life.  You hear stories of people following their dreams, creating thriving businesses, chasing passion projects, traveling the world and wonder, “How do they do that?”  You convince yourself that their lives are the result of perfect timing, luck, fame, and trust funds, or all of the above.  You also assume that anyone claiming to have a life filled with unbreakable bonds, love, support, wealth, purpose, bottle service, and joy must be broadcasting through a filtered façade.

It’s sometimes hard to admit that people are actually crushing it because it leaves us with an incessant nagging caused by our own unquenched desires.  If we convince ourselves that the only reason “those people” have achieved is because of who they know or because they are stronger, smarter, more creative, more worthy, or more beautiful than us, than we don’t have to take any action or assume any accountability.

Why aren’t you living a more meaningful, fulfilling, and joyous life?

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Happiness is a Choice

You deserve to be happy. Happiness is a choice. Learn how to begin your journey towards joy with actionable steps you can take today.

Somewhere along the way, we adopted the notion that the pursuit of happiness is a lofty, unrealistic, selfish ideal.  Instead of being immersed in things that bring us joy or strategically surrounding ourselves with people who lead genuinely happy lives, we are passing the time with folks who are busily faking it. 

To be fair, many of us don’t even own a personal definition of happiness or even know what truly brings us joy.  We are living lives that were designed for us, but not by us. 

Sometimes you marry the guy that everyone else wants you to marry. Sometimes you pursue the job that everyone insists will provide a great income and the best bet for a stable future. 

We also have a tendency to pursue things because they give us a sense of security and minimize our potential for fear that grows out of uncertainty. The person from a nice family, the job with a 401k, the position that will allow you to retire comfortably in the next 20-25 years are all things that we believe should make everyone happy. 

There isn’t anything inherently wrong with these things or even wanting these things.  The problem occurs when these things aren’t your things and you spend all of your minutes chasing stuff you never wanted anyway.

We fall victim to the idea that there is only one way to do things, only one type of life that will bring you joy, and then we feel the pressure of conquering the checklist:

go to college 

get a good job 

get married 

buy a house 

have babies 

go to lots of soccer practices 

have dinner parties 

We also might have a warped sense of what truly makes a person happy.  We look to others, observe, and think: I need what they have to be happy. Guess what? You came fully loaded with all the features and you are already equipped with everything you need.

You do not have to go outside of yourself to find joy.  Sure, you should absolutely use the universe and the people in it to inspire you.  Beautiful things, people, food, ideas, places, and art light us up from within. But, you have exactly what it takes to allow these things to enrich your life and fill it with joy. 

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